Korean Mother Kills Her Autistic Child, Gets 3 Years in Prison

On October 16th, a South Korean court announced the verdict in the case of a woman who murdered her four-year-old autistic child. This past June, desperate to end the difficulties of raising her severely autistic daughter, the woman loaded the child into her car, drove it into a highway median, and finally strangled the girl to death. The jury gave the woman a three-year prison sentence, with special consideration for the burdens of raising her autistic child.

Netizens were split between sympathizing with the mother’s state of mind and condemning anyone who would kill their own child. Korea has recently made the news for its treatment of autistic children, which some say face strong obstacles in a society that emphasizes school performance and a good bloodline.

Article from the Joongang Ilbo:

‘Probation’ for Mother who Killed Her Autistic Daughter

In 2010, a young mother received news from the hospital that hit her like a lightning bolt on a clear day.

On that day, Ms. Seo, 36, learned that her daughter was autistic.

The two-year-old girl had been completely unable to communicate with her parents, and just kept repeating the same bizarre gestures over and over again. For Ms. Seo, watching her child in the grips of the disease was worse than being in hell.

Looking ahead to the bleak future that faced her and her young daughter, Seo made a decision and in June of 2013 loaded her uncomprehending daughter into the family car.

Her intentions were to end all of the pain by murdering her daughter and then killing herself.

Seo drove around the outskirts of the city of Yeosu and Samcheon-po, but she couldn’t bring herself to violate the basic law of motherhood.

Two days after, she seemed to have made up her mind and eased her worries, when suddenly her daughter’s symptoms grew worse.

Seo began driving on the highway between Pohang and Daegu, her daughter beside her continuously unbuttoning her shirt and then demanding that her mother button it. Finally, the car collided with the highway median.

Seo, seeing her daughter screaming from the shock of the collision, decided she couldn’t take it anymore and grabbed her daughter’s neck with both hands.

On October 16th, Judge Choi Weol-young of Daegu’s 12th District Court announced that the jury in Seo’s case had delivered their verdict on the charge of murder of a four-year-old autistic girl, three years in prison, five years of probation, and 120 hours of community service.

Daegu city court room (file photo)

Daegu city court room (file photo)

The court stated that, “in the case of a woman who completely abandoned her responsibility to care for her young daughter, the sentence was inevitable.”

“However, it is worth taking into consideration Seo’s motivation, her desire to commit the crime due to desperation at the hardship of raising her child and intention to take her own life as well. We believe that Seo will spend the rest of her life weighed down by a punishment much worse than a life sentence.”

Of the seven-member jury, four were in favor of the three year prison sentence with five years of probation.

Comments from Daum:

땡깡쟁이:

Oh, how terrible. What could the mother have been feeling to have done such a thing? Just raising a healthy child is the greatest gift of all. Wanting a studious, hard working child is the second and third priority.

chul choi:

It hurt me to read this…

장선생:

It’s such a shame..

디드릿도:

No one has the right to criticize this woman. The government certainly doesn’t provide much support for taking care of autistic people, it’s just up to the mother or the family to take care of the child. Of course the mother didn’t make the right choice, and giving her an appropriate punishment is important. But all of those people pointing their fingers at their computer screens and criticizing her have no right to say anything. It’s just a shame..

투투:

This woman! I’ve been taking care of an autistic child for fifteen years now.. I have had the same thought thousands of times but I just clenched my teeth through the tears and kept on living. I worry about what would happen after the death, but everyone has to carry their own burden.. Good luck to all the parents out there carrying the same burden…

새출발:

What a tragedy. Autism is a disease. You’ve got to treat autistic people like patients.. You can’t think of them like regular people. If the mother had treated her child differently maybe she would have understood the behavior.. damn.. I hope you are reborn in a healthy new life where you receive much love from the people around you…

러브게임:

You can’t raise an autistic child in Korea…… Everyone may talk about what they would do, but when they actually face an autistic child throwing a fit in front of them they all scowl and insult them, asking the parents why they would bring such a child out in public.

Aune:

So the verdict is saying that it is alright to kill autistic children, wha? all you get is probation? If this had happened in America, it would have been the death penalty, in China, the death penalty. But in Korea, it’s probation. Probation seems like the inevitable sentence these days ke ke

곰치:

I read thoroughly all the comments supporting someone who murdered their own family. But this bastard is absolutely goddamn crazy!!!

파란 하늘:

But it was her daughter… She didn’t want to be born that way… Now you will grow old and die with that terrible guilt within you… There is no way to remove the sin of violating a mother’s responsibility… and just three years sentence… tsk tsk

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  • harvz

    All time low.

  • chucky3176

    Average time served for murder in Korea is anywhere from 2 to 7 years, with probation and early parole sandwiched in. Over ten years are reserved for the most heinous highly publicized crimes like first degree murderers who don’t show remorse, or serial killers. But rarely are there anything over 15 years or life. Death through execution hasn’t been carried out since 1997, as calls for abolishing the death sentence grows larger. Based on these what some Koreans consider as “democratic humanitarian” sentences, it’s OK to kill autistic children in Korea, you’ll get public sympathy, sympathy from media, and sympathy from judges. Police in South Korea are impotent, and they’re more like delivery servicemen (their uniforms look like it too) in charge of traffic.

    • chucky3176

      Forgot to add, prisons in South Korea are great accommodations too. If you’re poor, it’s definitely one place you should consider. Everything is provided for you free of charge. It’s nothing like the US prisons where you get raped.

      • bigmamat

        Yeah but the kid from the boy band, Daniel Choi got a year in jail today for selling pot 4 times. Great system you’ve got there, and we think the U.S. is fucked up.

        • Brett

          What has this got to do with anything?

        • Alice Pan

          Why are you pretending that absurd drug laws are unique to Korea? Our drug laws are fucked up too.

          • bigmamat

            Yes, that’s why I said America was f*cked up. But if you’re American you know that celebrities get away with quite a bit in the U.S. We don’t usually put our celebs in jail for drug offenses especially minor ones like this kid. He was pimpin’ a little pot to his peeps. But it’s Korea and he’s an IDOL and you can’t trust anyone. American celebrities are able to lead lives of much more autonomy. Yes, I understand it’s the culture. But how does that make it suck less?

        • Ami

          Selling any illicit drugs, even marijuana, in America will send your ass to jail for a long time. A single year for someone who’s been charged on multiple occasions is unheard of here in the states lmao.

          • bigmamat

            Got it understood, especially if you’re a black male. But celebrities don’t usually get charged with petty drug offenses unless they go off the rails or carry it on a plane. Most high profile American and British drug busts have been musicians on planes, and rappers addicted to the hood. They don’t go to jail. Willy Nelson lmao

        • chucky3176

          Ever since the “Democracy movement”, up to the 1990′s, Korea has gone the other way now. They took away policeman’s right to do their jobs, hand tied their abilities to do their jobs properly, and the criminal courts have reflected their basic philosophy that long sentences for crimes are against human rights. With predictable results. Any day of the night, it’s common to see on the news, drunks invading police stations and man handling the cops. The cops can’t do anything to put them down because they’re carefully watched by human rights groups for any evidence of violence by cops (even if it’s for self defense or an attempt at arrests). The Korean cop’s main job is more oriented towards to being a facilitator or an arbiter of conflicts to defuse tense situations that could lead to criminal complaints, rather than the pure enforcer of the law. I would say this system has its ups and downs, with the obvious weakness of criminals who should have their asses sent to jail, getting off lightly. Korea is building more new modern prisons, but they look more like juvenile minimum security re-education facilities, oriented towards rehabilitation and job training, rather than pure punishment.

          http://res.heraldm.com/content/image/2011/02/27/20110227000276_0.jpg

    • chinese

      I fully respect korean police.

  • UserID01

    I have an uncle with autism. He’s in his 50s, and manages to hold down a job and live on his own. He is someone very obviously autistic; you can tell simply looking at him and hearing how he talks. But he still manages to be self-sufficient. My cousin also has autism: he speaks two languages fluently, has a driver’s license, has a job and paints/sells his paintings as a secondary source of income. They both have autism, it’s not at all a “maybe they are, maybe they aren’t” situation. It’s obvious. But with the involvement of the family as a whole and help from available resources, these two men are living completely normal lives.

    This woman was obviously both ill-equipped to the specific challenges of raising an autistic child and mentally/emotionally disturbed. She’d known her daughter was autistic at the age of two. That means she struggled for two more years until she reached her breaking point. I mean, if you have a completely clear mind about it, you would hope to think to yourself, “I can’t raise this child. I don’t know how. I’ll have to go to an adoption agency.”

    I can’t know her frame of mind, or her particular stress, so I cannot even begin to understand her actions. And even if I could, murdering your child because you found being a parent of a child with autism “too difficult” doesn’t win you any sympathy. There had to be someone she could’ve gone to for help.

    • A Gawd Dang Mongolian

      Having been around autistic children, and raising one, I can safely say caring for them is much more different than ‘normal’ children. Depending on how severe they are on the spectrum, they require a large amount of patience and constant repetition for anything to sink in.

      Her daughter didn’t even appear to be that severe. Unbuttoning her shirt and wanting it rebuttoned? That is perhaps one of the mildest I’ve heard to date. If her mother was actually competent and I dunno RESEARCHED the subject, she might have felt less compulsion to strangle the child, possible even help her child.

      Whatever the case, the mother was not fit to raise one, and made one hell of a dumb decision.

      • http://www.sos-symphysiotomy.com/ redgirls

        What sort of agency is in Korea, to deal with Parents and Children coping with, Children with Autism, and Adults with Autism?

      • Ibby

        That’s just one instance of her behaviour. You have no idea what the child was like the rest of the time. Not really fair to judge what the perceived “severity” of the illness was based on one anecdote.

        • A Gawd Dang Mongolian

          Look at what she did as a two year old. She repeated gestures, and she didn’t speak. That is a mild case. Severe ones at that age don’t keep silent. They violently turn their heads away the moment you make eye contact, they scream and make a fuss when you force them to make eye contact, or when there is a sound that is too loud. They hit things for no reason, they bang their heads against surfaces. Those are the ones that are severe.

          • Ibby

            And what in the article suggested that this child didn’t do any of those things? I still don’t see how a description of the child’s behaviour on one occasion gives you enough information to form a full diagnosis.

          • A Gawd Dang Mongolian

            The article doesn’t specify her behavior as a ‘one time thing’. Over and over could easily mean she did this throughout her entire infancy. Plus screaming and headbanging is a major thing, it can frighten the hell out of an unprepared parent. If she did that, why would they omit that from the article?

      • UserID01

        My uncle is much more severe than my cousin, and even in my cousin’s case, there was a concentrated effort with him to provide “yes or no” questions/options to help him along in better decision making, over several years. And God forbid we broke his routine. Was it frustrating? Sure. Of course it was. And it must have been doubly frustrating for his parents, who have to care for him all day rather than the rest of us, who interact with him for a few hours a day. But the thing is… that effort pays off. Trying to combat frustration with frustration doesn’t help at all. Now, I’m not gonna say I was never frustrated with my cousin, because I was. Many times. But love of family (and taking a moment to recollect yourself) and treating him like a goddamn human being rather than a burden helped him along in learning to function and make his own decisions. To be self-sufficient. The very moment this woman realized she wasn’t up to the task should have been the moment she gave up custody.

        • linette lee

          This is one of the most beautiful testimony I have ever heard. Life is extremely difficult when a loved one is not well. Thank you for sharing with me. I will pray for you and your family to give you strength. :) More family should be more like yours. Help each other and never abandon.

  • Bryan Cheron

    She should’ve said she was drunk so she’d get an even lighter sentence. *rolls eyes*

  • lonetrey / Dan

    I feel like I want to judge the mother for filicide, but I don’t think I can.

    I’m not a parent, I’m not a mother,
    and I certainly don’t live in an environment like South Korea.

    I don’t know what to think then.

    • harvz

      And if someone kills you, I hope people say “I want to judge, but I can’t because I’m not an American and don’t understand what living in that environment does to a person.”
      Because that is equally as stupid.

      • lonetrey / Dan

        Haha, I didn’t see your comment until now.

        Actually. You’re spot on in terms of what I want people to think.

        Let’s play this out.

        A man, of whatever ethnicity you choose, from an impoverished area of the city (or lets say a starving town in a desert is teleported into my city), is starving and needs food desperately. He kills me, takes my wallet, and buys food. The police catch him and then he’s sent to jail. In court, people look down on him, and shame him for going so far as to kill me when he could just steal food instead of my wallet. But they don’t know how hungry he was, or how the mind is affected by starvation, or how his background has only taught him to take what you need to survive no matter the cost.

        Don’t you think that’s all part of what should be consideration?

        Lets say the man was a savage and doesn’t understand civilization’s rules. Don’t you think he should be judged based on that rather than “He’s a man! He should intrinsically and magically have known how to get food!”

        Or, lets say the man from a KKK family, and has been brainwashed from childhood to hate anyone who’s not white. Don’t you think he should be judged based on that rather than “He’s a grown man! He should intrinsically and magically have known not to discriminate against others!!”

        These are all considerations that should be taken into account.
        So no. I think what you said is as equally stupid as how stupid you think I sound.

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        Think my examples are ridiculous and irrelevant? They’re as relevant and irrelevant as your example. This article was about a autistic child being killed by a mother who wasn’t in her right state of mind.

        Your example was a grown person being killed and whether people would have empathy or not for the killer.

        So, double fault on your part, I suppose.
        Because that is equally as stupid.

    • sexxy mama

      I will then.shes a monster!!!a demon walking the earth.heartless with no soul!anyone who murders an innocent child is goin straight to hell.does not matter where you live.murder is murder!!!!!everyone really needs to wake up man.i have a,severly autistic son that i take,care of everyday….i love him and advocate for his rights.not me or anyone else has the right to violate his human rights.god is the final decision maker on that one.not a person!!!!!

      • lonetrey / Dan

        I never said I support her killing her child. I just don’t think I can JUDGE her. Meaning, I can’t look down on her for being a person who’s suffering.

        The Korean mother. She is suffering from intense guilt. And she clearly didn’t want to do it either. That doesn’t mean she shouldn’t be locked up.

        She definitely did something wrong. No doubt.

        The problem with your post is that you don’t understand the more subtle meanings of my words. But I do give you recognition for standing up for what you think is right. (In this case, we both support the same thing, which is taking care of autistic children.)

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        edit: the problem with expressing sympathy for a suffering killer or criminal of anysort is that people focus all on their crimes, and never on their past and suffering.

        • sexxy mama

          Are you serious right now.after you murder an innocent child i dont give a fuck aboutyour past suffering!!!i was child abused and i have had avery hard life and im not goingout killingpeople!!!!aneye for an eye!!

          • lonetrey / Dan

            “Eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.”

            You’ve heard of that phrase, right? I know you don’t give a damn about the woman’s suffering.

            But, what about the killers and murderers in this world who don’t give a damn about people’s good lives?

            Aren’t they don’t the same thing? The only difference is, instead of putting their thoughts into words, they just did it.

            They just killed.
            And didn’t bother to give a damn about other people’s lives.

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            I know murder and killing are horrible, horrible things. But I think the true enemy here is “apathy” (about people’s suffering) and “ignorance” (about equal and opposite actions/reactions). What do you think?

            I would love to talk to you about this, actually. I’ll be honest, your words fascinate me a little bit. Especially the bit about having a hard life and eye-for-eye being in consecutive sentences.

            Reply to post if you’re willing to tell me a little bit more? I would like to hear more of your opinions!

          • sexxy mama

            You have a right to your feelings.i am just sick of these crazzy people who do horrible things to other people and get away with it.im sorry but I feel that just because you had it hard and were stressed doesnt give you a ticket to hurt anyone.people have to learn self control for themselves no matter how hard it gets.murder is never justifed unless defending youself.

          • lonetrey / Dan

            I must get this point across: I do not think these people get a free pass, or a “ticket” to do whatever they want.

            But how thin is that line between what you say and what they do?

            You pinpointed it perfectly in your response to me: “self-control”. Self-control is the only thing stopping someone like me or someone like you, @sexxy_mama:disqus , from straight up murdering these murderers.

            You say that we should kill sick wackjobs like this Korean mother, but then you also say “murder is never justified unless defending yourself.”

            But there is no longer someone to defend, only someone to punish now, right? The child is gone and nothing will bring them back. Should we kill the mother anyways? Who are we “defending” if we simply kill the Korean mother?

            That’s my question. “Who are we ‘defending’ if we simply kill the Korean mother?”

  • PixelPulse

    I am so sick of seeing these stories where the parents kill or want to kill their child because they have autism. Yeah its difficult but just because its a little harder doesnt mean you kill your child. I wish she got a harsher sentence.

    • 于丹尼

      From my own experience, it’s a lot more that a little harder, but that still doesn’t mean she didn’t kill a human being.

    • shauna

      exactly! I don’t know what some people expect when they have children. It’s like they think it’ll be a walk in the park, with proper support an autistic child, no matter the severity, can live a normal life. If she was struggling so bad, why not put the child up for adoption.

  • Ibby

    While I’m not defending her actions, some people seem to think that the child being “difficult” is the only thing that drove this mother to kill the child. It’s not just that autistic children are harder to raise. It’s not just that they act up more. It’s that she was trying to raise the child in a society where an autistic child would probably never be accepted. The child will never grow up to hold down a job, due to discrimination from employers. If I were a parent faced with taking care of a disabled child by myself for the rest of my life, I’d probably want to kill myself too.

    • bigmamat

      I don’t know if Korean jail has suicide watch but she probably needs to be on it. Somehow I don’t think so. Obviously she lost her shit but I really don’t find her decision much more heartbreaking than the way the average Korean treats their children. They beat them into submission. They drive them like cattle and then they control them long into adulthood. It’s part of the culture. It produces results. Unless of course they fail and commit suicide. I thought America was a brutal society, I was wrong we’re a bunch of pussy cats compared to Koreans.

      • Ibby

        I wasn’t disagreeing with you; I do think social/cultural norms have a lot to do with it. I don’t think it’s heartbreaking. But I do think that it has to do with more than a parent just being annoyed at a bratty kid acting up. Many commenters seemed to be focused on the stress of dealing with an autistic child acting up, but not the bigger picture. A difficult child alone rarely drives a parent to commit infanticide, but the belief that that child will never grow up to be anything useful may make the parent less tolerant.

        • bigmamat

          Which also goes back to the pressure of Korean society to produce children that will be productive enough to take care of you in old age. Given the low birth rate in Korea I think it might be time for Koreans to start thinking about some kind of social safety net. I’ve read a couple of articles this year about elder suicide on the rise do to people being left alone with no family.

  • bigmamat

    This does not surprise me. The more I learn about South Korea the more I realize that it is a brutal society. South Korea may no longer be a 3rd world country economically but it’s culture has not caught up with it’s technological and economic progress. In many ways it has only compounded Korea’s social problems. Certainly this progress did not do away with the Korean caste system or it’s subjugation of it’s women.

  • tomoe723

    sheeesh, typical korean women.. kills anything that doesn’t go with their wishes…
    -_-

    • LuxeLife

      someone watches too many dramas haha

  • Jang

    If you’re “Jang-aye-In / Handicapped” in S. Korea, you’re s*** outta luck. Or better put…You’re DEAD!

  • Jang

    Autism = disorder but that’s “handicapped” in S. Korea. Who knows, the kid could’ve turned out to be another Albert Einstein or any one of these other functioning people on the autism spectrum…
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_people_with_autism_spectrum_disorders

    • Alice Pan

      What does that matter? What she did was fucked up regardless of where on the spectrum her daughter fell.

  • McKeeverFever

    To anyone defending this you are sick. Don’t give a shit what the rational is, there is no way in hell you can justify strangling your 3 year old daughter. Hope the cunt rots in hell.

    • holdingrabbits

      I appreciate a non-wishy washy “I can’t understand her, so I won’t judge her” mentality.

    • Rinetto Shii

      Preach!!

    • sexxy mama

      I agree with you completely…hope the cunt rots in hell!!!!i have a severely autistic son who is 12 now!i do everything mostly alone cause my husband works alot.i have no life.you know what when you have a child you dont know if they will be healthy and we all want a child with no isdurs but you get what god gives you and you do the best ypu can with it…this bitch took the coward way out cause she did not want to take care of this her child anymore.i get tired of it too but to kill your child and only get 3 years….that is just not justice at all and may that little baby rest in peace with jesus and that piece of shit burn in fucken hell!!!!!!

  • Alice Pan

    Idk why one of the comments mentions America & why the NY Times wrote an article about Korean Americans as if they’re any different to the rest of us…this kind of disgusting ableism is not exclusive to Koreans. There’s plenty of non Korean parents here who get away with shit like this bcs of “oh poor them, raising an autistic child!” sentiments. And it’s not even just the general population but even institutions such as hospitals. Ableism, if acknowledged at all, isn’t taken as seriously as other isms but it’s a massive problem with all kinds of dire consequences (such as a parent murdering their child and people sympathising with them…).

  • Number8

    I have some hope for people on the autistic spectrum in Korea. The public school where I work (National School, not private) has some children in the classrooms who are autistic. More disruptions come from the non-autistic!

  • holdingrabbits

    Come on, folks. It’s not that hard. A lot of you are talking about how you can’t understand her mentality and that it must be awfully hard to raise a kid with autism. I don’t want to understand her. What makes people do fucked up things? No idea, don’t want to know, don’t care. I’m sure most murderers have really stressful situations they were going through, but you know what? When they murder someone you give them an appropriate sentence regardless of how stressful their life was. Kids with autism are human beings and need more care. Sorry, if everyone thought raising kids was supposed to be like getting a dog that you could just put down if you didn’t like it. That’s what this boils down to: the people on the jury viewed the daughter little better than an animal. I know that we’re all supposed to be politically correct constantly, but a woman killed a defenseless child with a mental handicap because it was too “hard.” That’s fucking madness!

    • bigmamat

      Koreans beat the shit out their kids. They drive them into the ground studying and then they control them long into adulthood. From my western point of view in many ways Koreans attitude toward their children often seems like they treat them more as a product. Something to be molded and pounded into form. This is mainly because Koreans as a society along with other Asian cultures do not have a social safety net. A Korean without an adult child to take care of them is left on their own. Naturally the goal is to mold your child into someone that will have the means to provide for both of you in the best possible way. The west has abandoned the notion of children as a social and economic commodity.

  • KCdude

    This reminds me of my time in Toronto. I remember about an old public petition to give South Korean families with autistic kids Canadian permanent residency. It’s because South Korea is a very dangerous country for autistic people.

    • Frosssstyy

      South Korea is an unwelcome place for anyone that is unorthodox (or if they are, they should at least be wealthy). Not saying the West is without flaws, but it just amazes how much Koreans will tell you about how much more open and friendly and peaceful they are than Japanese and Chinese (to their credit, it’s generally true, but not to the degree they claim), then pounce on anyone that challenges their homogeneity. The only influence their society can handle at the time are non-threatening white businessmen, every other culture or subculture is viewed as inferior or subversive to them. Blacks, male English teachers, other asians, Arabs/Persians, non-protestant/catholic christians, muslims, gays (moreso domestic than foreign ones), US military, autistic children, etc… they may only have a negative run-in with any given group 1 out of 100 times, but that 1 time, it is the end of the world. I’m just lucky that as white US military, I was still able to masquerade as a translator in my off-time and at least appeal to their sense of linguistic superiority (“Oh wow, this white managed to learn OUR magnificient language!”)

      Thankfully the post-1980 generations of Koreans are breaking from the mold somewhat; even in North Korea, across a military and cultural firewall, the youth are openly mocking the establishment, and in the South, there are people reaching adult age that never really had to deal with the indoctrination of several dictators

      • commander

        In addition to the remarkable rise from the destitute country in the wake of the 1950-53 Korean War in decades to one of the advanced countries in the world, requiring Seoul to be a leading nation in human rights, publuc welfare and minority protection may be too much.

        South Korea is in the throes of identifying what has been overlooked in achieving the rapip economic flourishment and drawing up countermeasures to counteract side effects from the so called miraculous economic development.

  • commander

    In an incident that has provoked a avalanche of condemnations for going against what is one of the strongest instincts–maternal love, no one would identify with her, possibly no matter what circumstances.

    (By the way, what was her husband doing when his wife decided to go to the extreme? )

    What needs to be focused on beyond the scathing criticism to her is whether she was unknowingly suffering postpartum depression at the time of killing her child, and whether treatment and consultation for autistic children is available for her.

    The abandonment of motherhood shows the contradiction of the Korean society.

    With childbirth and childcare becoming the buzzword in drawing up the measures to turn around the low fertility rate in South Korea, the killing illustrates pregnant women in need can’t get access to help or out of the radaor of those who gives help to those mothers like her.
    I think there are many unreported cases involving childbirth.
    The policymakers should do more to preclude a repetition of the similar kind.

    • linette lee

      My first question was…where was the father? The problem with most society they usually blame the mother first. While both father and mother are equally responsible for their kids. Men just get off so easy anything to do with childcare. If kid don’t behave in school go call the mother. If kid is sick go call the mother. Like how about call the father first then the mom only if you can’t find the father. lol.

      • commander

        Women tend to be catious in choosing their future lovers/spouses as thry realize that not all men commit themselves to the family as much as women expect them to be.

        I am not sure whether thr convicted mother is a single mom.

        But blaming men after acts of irresponsibility are commited is too late and fruitless for women, which indicates extra caution cant be overemphasized for women.

  • Jjangkkae

    This is one of the most fucked up news I read on this site. Korean society needs to shape up. Korea wasn’t even part of the American security perimeter. The peninsula is only being held to balance China and protect the real colony, Japan.

    • commander

      Is there any relevance between what should never have happened and the geopolitical dilemma facing South Korea?

    • analog robot

      Oh yea? and I think your comment is Fucked up.

  • commander

    Although it may be slightly off from the point, we need to think about abortions that is carried out in secret.

    Murdering the 3 year old and aborting fetuses are quite similar in taking a life, though the latter draws much less criticism.

    • death_by_ivory

      A 2 week old cluster of cells is not a baby or a 2 year old toddler.

      • commander

        Techinically speaking, abortions before a conceived egg develop into is not regarded as a living life.

        Bur South Korea prohibits abortions by law except pregnancies from rape and incest or ones posing a life threatening hazard to pregnant women, though many abortions are covertly executed.

        Anyway talking about abortions has gone too far from the original topic.

        • death_by_ivory

          I was just saying that because a lot of people compare that murder with an abortion.Killing a 3 year old is not the same as abortion.Also what if tests can determine if the child is autistic or not before birth(I dont think it is possible but correct me if it is),how many woman truly would keep the baby?

          • commander

            Well,,I dont know if determining fetal defects, physical and psychological, is possible.

            But if medical advacement makes it possible, a woman might want to figure out the likelihood of having a baby with congenital handicaps if she marry a guy and get pregnant before a marriage.

            And tue other way around would be also true.

  • bultak23

    she-beast.

  • Scream_Writer

    Hasa diga eebowai

  • bang2tang

    how about people who abort their fetus, because they found abnormality on their fetus, I know it’s different case, but it hard to take care special need children.

    • commander

      Your case bears a potential seed of catastrophy for humankind as allowing abortions based some tests for fetuses could be stretched into a case where those who have disabilities after birth is abandoned because of costs and troubles involving looking after them, fueling a disregard for human life and dignity.

  • JesusFuckingChrist

    There are different levels of autism. Her daughter doesn’t seem to have the stereotypical type of autism where they can still function on their own. Her daughter is severely autistic. There was a girl in my high school class (for some reason they put her in a normal English classroom with the rest of the population) she screamed every 5 minutes and muttered to herself and flapped her arms around. It was so distracting they had to remove her into the hallway everyday. I have no idea why they put her there. Unless you have lived with someone like that you cannot judge the mother.

    • sexxy mama

      So what you are sayin and so is,everyone else that its justified if the person is severe and not going to funtion as you say!!!people in this,world need to stop playing god!thats the whole problem right now.its up to god and a life is a life.because someone is smarter that means there life is more important!!!wow thats,what this,world is coming too and people are just so mean and cruel.what gives you or anyone else the right to make that decision.you or noone else on this planet are anyones judge or jury.only god above is.the,only time you have that right is,if someone breaks the,law!!!!!!!!not because they are autistic.and for that matter my son lives,a happy life and has,the same rights you have as,a human being!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Yaminah Jamison

    Sorry but I personally think she should have at least try to see if she could give the girl up for adoption. Regardless if it is hard to raise a child who couldn’t help but to be born that way (and the mother having no choice in the matter obviously) to rob her life like that for a selfish reason is just disgusting. Heck even have someone abroad adopt her if it is less likely a Korean would do so. I feel this is different than a abortion because this is now (well was) a born, breathing life. I think it is messed up to abort when the pregnancy was unexpected yet the process of it happening was willingly. But this matter, she went through the whole term and even when the child was born, heard she was autistic. She sti decided to take the challenge but unfortunately couldn’t deal… but killing a now breathing life who have rights more or less is messed up and robs all chances and oppurtunites she could’ve had.

    However I do have the feeling that socially, not many people would understand how it is to have and raise an autistic child so I do think the above comment mentioning how the public would be upset that a child acting out in such a way was taken out. And if that is a more common attitude it makes me wonder how much support there is in raising autistic children in Korea. But still…. don’t rob someone’s life in such a way. Sadly it is too late.

    • linette lee

      Common folks in most Asia countries they are not as knowledgeable dealing with people with disabilities especially the mental disabled. And in their culture they pretty much labeled all mental people “crazy”. It’s not like the western people even ADHD they categorize into different class. There are more public awareness to the different types of mental illness in the western society too. In most Asia countries they will just say you are crazy. Very sad. Normal kids will point and laugh at mentally sick kids. Not good. Should not point or laugh at sick or mental people. Do the parents teach them that?
      I am not sure in south korea how much social services or organizations they have to provide aid to disabled people. Have special ed for kids with disabilities to help them to learn and be more independent. But it seems like a society that focus so heavily on physical appearance is really not a good place for girls with mental illness. And this young mother she is just so young and immature raising a mentally ill daughter, living in a society like that. I can imagine why she is so depressed and want to kill herself and her daughter. It has lots to do with the pressure raising an ill daughter plus the place she lives in. If she lives in a western society she won’t be as depressed.

  • kick the crutch

    Not even a single news in South Korea.
    Always happen by Kimchi-girls.
    Better than flushing fetus in gas station toilet because male baby is a future rapist.

    http://i2.cdn.turner.com/cnn/dam/assets/130529003559-china-toilet-baby-04-horizontal-gallery.jpg

    • bang2tang

      this is china’s toilet baby case.

    • sexxy mama

      This is so horrible.look at the babys little face.omg….the person that did this to the little innocent baby should have the same thing done to them.letvme flush you down the toilet and see how you like it.things like this make me feel so sad inside like my heart is broken for the suffering of that baby and all the other people in this world who were killed or tortured by the hands of a madman

  • Jonathan

    This is way off topic but i would only wonder how many half black babies shared a similar fate? Then again I don’t want to know. Can Korean society be capable of unconditionally love.

  • Abubu Khan

    So what does the Korea defense squad have to say about this one?

  • Frosssstyy

    As someone who generally liked Korea and would go back 4 more years, sometimes, these people just fucking astound me. “It’s understandable, or even okay, because they are difficult to raise! Don’t judge!” … and now I have a 100% clear understanding of how Kim Il Sung was able to carve a dogmatically obedient state out of Korean culture.

  • Lisa Stephenson

    It is difficult for me to read this knowing that, in most cases, ‘autism’ is a set of symptoms of a dysfunctional immune system, and is treatable. I am sure the outcome for this poor family would be different if the medical community would start listening to and learning from the doctors (Dr. Michael Goldberg and Dr. Bruce Russell) that are successfully treating this medical illness.

  • Nickie

    come on, this is disgusting, why the hell is she let off easy just because her child was autistic. Its not like she wanted to be born like that, im sure it was just as hard on the child. You need to love an autistic child just like a normal child.

  • haohao

    Autism may simply be an unusual occurrence, not a mental illness. That said, what’s wrong with euthanizing the truly mentally ill, or physically deformed infants? I’d say it’s rather humane.

  • Rinetto Shii

    She took her little daughters life before her little daughter could taste living. I don’t care how freaking ‘stressed out’ she was, she should be locked away for good. Murder is never justified. My 18yo brother is Autistic and he’s put our family through heaps of crap, but my mother loves him and always puts his needs above anything else (she’s Asian too btw). At least that little girl could talk! My brother cant even do that. I think my mom would get a heart attack if I told her news like this.

  • silver surfer

    In Korea a child who cannot study is a worthless child. It is that attitude that needs to be questioned.

  • plo

    What kind of mother killed her kid just because the kid is not normal?? Autistic can be treated. My brother is a therapist for autistic, some of the kids in his clinic already ‘graduated’. Indeed it takes time and patient to treat them but doesn’t mean it can’t be treated. People are beyond stupid and cruel even to their supposed to be most precious thing in the world.

  • Anonymous

    The culling of defective children should be mandatory so as not to burden the society and create much suffering and misery.

  • actuallyautistic

    as an autistic person, I’m always horrified and saddened when I read about things like this, and very hurt by comments left by people calling autism a “disease” and defending the parent who murders their autistic child. I am not diseased and people who murder people like me do not deserve to be defended. Our lives are worth something and we matter.

  • sadsadsad

    WTH at that whole article. The logic. NO

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